With everything being so chaotic right now, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and neglect taking time for yourself to regroup. When was the last time you gave yourself alone time? Like legitimately scheduled out some time just to simply decompress. If you’re anything like me, you have no idea when that last time was! Or maybe you do remember and can’t wait to find that time again. Between the kids needing constant supervision and my wonderful husband taking over the kitchen as his makeshift home office, I really started to notice how incredibly overwhelmed I’ve become and how desperate I was for just a minute alone.
I had been seeing so many posts on social media urging people to remember to self-care during quarantine and as a mom of two toddlers, I just laughed them off. With the endless piles of laundry, the sink full of dishes, trying to keep the house somewhat organized, all while chasing two toddlers doesn’t allow for much time for self-care, not to mention the insane guilt I felt for even thinking of taking time alone. I felt like I was being selfish and my mind went right back to my long “to do” list. I stumbled upon an article from last year that stressed the importance of prioritizing yourself and how the lifestyle I was living was (shockingly) not sustainable. I realized that after running on empty for so long I had forgotten what it was like to not be so annoyed and short tempered. I was stressed out and ready to snap. I was starting to really hate the negative person I was becoming and knew I needed to figure out a way to relax so that I would be a better and more present parent for the kids. So decided to force myself to be what I saw as selfish.
Over the past month, I have forced myself to take anywhere from 10-20 minutes for myself every day. And while that might not sound like much, it has made all the difference. By prioritizing myself and giving myself a little bit of grace, I was able to not only show my kids the value of taking care of yourself, but I was also able to show up in a better way for them. My patience improved, I had more energy to play, and I just felt happier. While I saw putting myself above everything else as selfish, I quickly realized it was actually the complete opposite. By showing up for myself, I was showing up even more for my kids.
These past 6 months in quarantine have made me come to the realization that the way we are being forced to live our lives is not going to change anytime soon. Regardless of how much we hate it or want it to change, we have to come to a place of acceptance and make the best of it. So instead of being angry and resentful, I decided that for my own mental sake I needed to figure out a way to make time for my own self-care and try to adapt a more positive mindset. It was hard for me to force self-care time into my daily schedule, but I am so proud of myself for sticking with it because the results have been worth it. It’s time to put yourself at the top of your priorities; the dishes and laundry can wait!